Bhai, “Teri wali” !

07 Jan

Welcome back. Just a week back, I received a mail from wordpress telling me how you guys have been such a support to take the total views close to 30K! Thank you guys. 
In the last post, I wrote how every guy has got that one girl that is his. Half of my friends, seniors, juniors are committed. Rest are single. But everybody has a girl. Most of you, which live with a gang of guys, would get this post quite correctly. To start, let us look at some typical conservation in a boy’s gang.
“Bhai, teri wali dikhi thi aj”
“Bhai, tumhari wali ne coaching me top kiya”
“Sir, apki wali ka call aa raha hai apke phone pe, headphone nikalo”
“Sir, madam ke sath ja rahe ho aj sham ko, ya apan chale chicken khane?”
These are the typical sentences which are used in conversations in a boy’s hostel, or in a gang of guys who hang out together. Not taking the names of the girls is not a thing that is out of disrespect. Instead, guys do this, as a matter of fact, to show respect, or sometimes, to have fun of each other.
There is a friend of mine. Single, officially, committed secretly. No need to get confused, single because the girl doesn’t love him. Now, we usually hang out together many nights. Have dinner together, and then usually go to the local chai wala at the Ring Road. Now what the charm is, we, me, and the other buddies, always address that girl as ‘’Bhai, Teri Wali” talking to him. And that day, to our surprise, he responded, “Bhai, Kahan meri wali be”. With a sad expression. So, we asked him, with sheer surprise, “Kyu bhai, Kya hua?” And he replied, “Kuch nai be, meri wali kahan hui, she doesn’t need me”. And this sent me thinking, what actually the psychology of we guys is, a girl is ours, if we think, we are the ones who are responsible for her well being.
There is a basic difference in a guy, and a girl. That is, how a guy and a girl, perceive a relationship. Starting with a girl, she considers herself single, until the day, she gets officially in a relationship, with a guy proposing to her, with all the mainstream stuff.
For a guy, living is always tough. There are pressures from the society, peers, and parents. Pressure to achieve something in life so that everybody doesn’t call him a vella. And then, when it comes to a girl, a guy gets committed the moment he falls for a girl. And that’s when that girl becomes “uski wali” for his guys. That girl, at that moment, maybe with someone else, but once deemed as “uski wali”, she is “uski wali”, until something drastic happens, like entry of a new girl, prior of him getting committed officially with that girl. 😛
What I want to bring forth is, how the world, especially girls perceive this coining of them in such a manner. If ever, one of your guy will say, “Bhai teri wali aa rahi hai”, and the girl listens, she will say, definitely, later to the guy, “Kitne chichore dost hain tumhare, mat raha karo aese logo ke sath!”
They think, it is guys cheap mentality, disrespect for them that they talk in this manner. But dear girls, if this had been the case; we would never address our seniors the way the last two dialogues were written above. What makes guys talk in this manner is the deep understanding they have. When a girl is deemed as your girl in our guy’s gang, she automatically secures a place for which there is always respect and dignity. And it would come as surprise to many girls reading this post, but sincerely, you need to know, that your guy also thinks you as “Meri wali”. And this is because, he thinks, that you are his. And when he thinks this way, you are probably a lucky girl. Because no matter what, if he think you as hers, then trust me, you have got someone in your life who truly cares about you. Girls are generally nagging that their guys don’t give them time they deserve, cheat upon them, talk about other girls, prefer their guys over them, but the truth is, if you have some guy like this in your life, then certainly, someone unfailingly thinks about you, every night before he go to sleep.
Some girls might think this post baseless, to them. You can’t ever test how much a guy cares about you, unless that guy is a bit cheesy and keeps telling you how much he loves you. But if you want to know the truth, take the guy to a Jungle, and tell him that you met an accident, or you are in serious trouble. See, then, how that guy will move earth and heaven, just to come to you. Even if you are not committed to him, even you have another boyfriend. But since he had given you a place as “Meri wali,” or now to say more correctly, his girl, you are his. Nothing else matters to him. That indirectly makes the things much easier for girls. They have always got someone to care for them. And that’s when a guy usually gets on a receiving end. Taken as granted, he is deprived of all the happiness that he deserves. That is when movies like Pyar ka Panchnama come into picture. And then, when the guy breaks, he gets tired of this, the girl becomes a bitch from “uski wali”. And then boys are the bad guys. But look, who make them like this?
So, dear girls next time you realise that you had became a guys girl, just walk to him and try to clear out the things. Because, doesn’t matter how much that guy is smart mentally, you are inside a part of him, which is insulated from any logical thing, and is very fragile. Unless, you want to be deemed a bitch later.
And, to all boys, Guys, we rock. For all the women we love 😉 Cheers !


Posted by on January 7, 2013 in Friendship, Love


17 responses to “Bhai, “Teri wali” !

  1. Mayank Sharma

    January 7, 2013 at 6:33 pm

    Awesome…. 🙂 … !!
    Very nicely written, I thought it was a fun post but you have embedded some serious point very nicely in between the humorous content !! And nice depiction of a both the girl’s and boy’s mentality !! 🙂 maja aa gaya bhai padh kar ! 😀

    • Chirag Garg

      January 7, 2013 at 7:05 pm

      Girish you have much grown up since last time i read your blog post..very nicely written..keep it up..:-)

  2. Girish Singh Thakur

    January 7, 2013 at 6:48 pm

    Thanku Bhai 😀

  3. Kishore Mangal

    January 7, 2013 at 7:43 pm

    Well said 🙂
    1 more guy who got tired of these things.:-P
    But maja aa gaya yar.grt keep it up!
    LIQUID 😛

    • Girish Singh Thakur

      January 7, 2013 at 7:45 pm

      Thanku for appreciation sirjee 😀 Par seriously, apne sath aesa nai hua abhi tak 😀 Lucky me 😉

  4. bhd3

    January 7, 2013 at 8:06 pm

    Very well constructed and even better was the generally subdued and satirical message!! 😉
    Keep it up \m/

  5. shreyapandey

    January 7, 2013 at 8:29 pm

    mast h… 🙂 n I can assure u… no gal is goin to find this post baseless. 🙂

  6. Nikhil Gangil

    January 8, 2013 at 7:06 am

    nice buddy 🙂 we certainly will keep saying this “teri wali”

  7. abhinavkanth

    January 8, 2013 at 7:08 am

    Sweet,light and a superb one.
    This blog is the voice of half of the planet’s population.
    Nicely constructed.
    Keep it up.!! 🙂

    • Girish Singh Thakur

      January 8, 2013 at 7:54 am

      Thank you very much sir 😉 You are always an inspiration 🙂

  8. Nehal

    January 9, 2013 at 6:28 am

    Ohhh mindblowing, superb yar…U have sumthng in ur words ….Keep it up dude…nd do rock always 🙂 🙂

  9. Prateek Shrivastava

    March 6, 2013 at 4:50 pm

    Good one man! I really liked that one. As a suggestion, I would say if it could have been a little teeny-weeny shorter. I would have loved it. But anyways, Nice work….. And tell me how do you get so many visitors, come on I have been writing for 3 years and all I have is 5000. Don’t use bots be genuine… 😛


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